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What to do if…
an ex keeps contacting you from new accounts with sexual messages after you blocked them

Short answer

Stop replying and switch to “collect a little + block + report.” If you feel unsafe or threatened, contact the police (999 in an emergency; otherwise 101) and get specialist support.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t reply “just to make them stop” or to argue—any response can encourage more contact.
  • Don’t negotiate boundaries with them in chat (even if your message is firm).
  • Don’t publicly post call-outs or “evidence threads” while you’re still dealing with them (it can escalate and can expose your info).
  • Don’t delete everything in a panic if you think you might want help later—save a minimal record first.
  • Don’t assume “it’s only online, so it can’t be serious.” Repeated unwanted contact can be stalking/harassment.

What to do now

  1. Get to a calmer pause and reduce immediate exposure.
    Put your phone on Do Not Disturb, mute message requests/DMs where you can, and step away from the app for a few minutes so you can act deliberately.

  2. Switch to one rule: “no contact.”
    From this point, do not respond at all (including “leave me alone”). If you’ve already said “do not contact me,” you do not need to repeat it.

  3. Make a simple, low-effort record (only if it feels safe to do so).
    Create one folder (notes app or a private cloud folder) and save:

    • screenshots showing the username/account, message, and date/time; and
    • the profile link/handle if the platform shows it.
      Keep it minimal—just enough to show the pattern. Then stop.

  4. Block and report every new account—use the platform’s strongest options available to you.

    • Report the messages as harassment/sexual content.
    • If the platform has a setting that blocks the person’s future accounts (wording varies), use it.
    • If it doesn’t, keep doing the repeatable loop: block + report + restrict who can message you.

  5. Tighten privacy in ways that specifically reduce repeat contact.

    • Remove your phone number/email from “find by phone/email” settings where possible.
    • Review who can DM you, comment, tag you, or see your stories/online status.
    • If they keep finding new routes, consider changing your username/display name and profile photo (even temporarily).
      If you suspect they can access your phone/accounts, make these changes from a safer device/account session first.

  6. If there’s any threat, fear, or escalation, contact the police.

    • Call 999 if you’re in immediate danger or believe they’re coming to where you are.
    • Otherwise call 101 or use your local force’s online reporting to report stalking/harassment and explain the repeated contact from new accounts. Keep it factual: “blocked, repeated new accounts, sexual messages, dates.”

  7. Get specialist support (you don’t have to “wait until it’s worse”).

    • If this pattern is persistent or frightening, contact the National Stalking Helpline for practical support.
    • If the messages are sexual and distressing, you can also contact Rape Crisis (24/7 support line) for confidential support, even if you’re unsure how to label what’s happening.

  8. Tell one trusted person what’s happening (briefly, with a practical ask).
    Example: “If I show you a screenshot later, can you help me log dates / sit with me while I report?” This reduces isolation and helps you follow through.

What can wait

  • You don’t have to decide today whether to pursue a legal order, a formal complaint, or a full “case.”
  • You don’t have to write a perfect statement or organise every message—just keep a basic record.
  • You don’t have to confront them, explain yourself, or prove anything to friends/family right now.
  • You don’t have to change your whole online life tonight—focus on the smallest settings that stop access.

Important reassurance

It makes sense if you feel disgusted, panicky, frozen, or ashamed—none of that means you caused this. The behaviour is on them. Taking calm, repeatable steps (“save a little, block, report, get support”) is a strong and protective response.

Scope note

This is first steps only—aimed at stopping escalation and buying time. If the behaviour continues, specialist services (and sometimes police) can help you plan safer next steps without you having to carry it alone.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. If you feel in danger or the contact escalates (threats, doxxing, turning up in person), treat it as urgent and seek immediate help. If you’re worried they can access your device/accounts, use a safer device/network to contact support and to change passwords/security settings.

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