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What to do if…
someone says they have access to your accounts and could leak private messages of a sexual nature

Short answer

Pause, don’t pay, and stop engaging with the person. Secure your accounts (starting with email), and get specialist support so you’re not handling this alone.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t pay, send gift cards/crypto, or “buy time” by negotiating — it usually escalates demands.
  • Don’t send more intimate content “to prove” anything, or to try to satisfy the threat.
  • Don’t click links they send, install “verification” apps, or share one-time passcodes.
  • Don’t rush into deleting chats/emails/accounts before you’ve captured the essentials (if you need to lock an account quickly, secure it first and keep minimal screenshots/notes).
  • Don’t post public explanations or name-and-shame them while you’re still exposed (it can inflame the situation).
  • Don’t assume it’s your fault or that you must handle it privately.

What to do now

  1. Create a safer pause. Put the phone down for 60 seconds, breathe, and decide: “I’m not paying and I’m not replying right now.”
  2. Save just enough evidence (minimal, not forensic).
    • Screenshot (or screen record) the threat, their username/handle, profile page, and any payment demand details.
    • Note the date/time and which platform it happened on.
  3. Stop contact and reduce access.
    • Stop replying.
    • Block the account/number on the platform once you’ve captured key details.
  4. Secure the accounts that can reset everything (fast damage-limiting).
    • Email account first: change password to a long unique one and turn on 2-step verification.
    • Review and correct recovery options (recovery email/phone) and remove anything you don’t recognise.
    • Then change passwords for: main social accounts, messaging accounts, cloud photo storage, and banking/payment apps.
    • Sign out of other sessions/devices where the service allows it; remove unknown devices and connected apps.
  5. Check for simple signs of compromise.
    • Look for unexpected login alerts, password reset emails you didn’t request, new forwarding rules/filters in email, or new devices/sessions.
    • If you suddenly lose mobile signal or receive “SIM change” notices, contact your mobile provider (this can be a sign of SIM-swap attempts).
  6. Use platform reporting and safety tools.
    • Report the account and the messages as sextortion/harassment on the platform where it’s happening.
    • If you’re an adult and worried intimate images might be shared on major platforms, you can use StopNCII.org to help participating platforms detect and remove matching images where they violate policy (it does not remove content from the whole internet).
  7. Get specialist support (you can do this without committing to a police report).
    • If you’re 18+ in the UK, contact the Revenge Porn Helpline for confidential help with threats to share intimate content and removal support.
    • If you’re under 18 (or any images involve someone under 18), use CEOP and Report Remove (Childline/IWF) for safeguarding-focused support.
  8. If you feel in immediate danger, call emergency services.
    • If there’s a real-world threat (they know where you are, stalking, coercion, threats of violence), call 999.
    • Otherwise, you can report to police via 101 (non-emergency).

What can wait

  • You don’t need to decide right now whether to tell everyone, post publicly, confront them, or “explain yourself.”
  • You don’t need to prove whether they truly have access before taking basic security steps.
  • You don’t need to write a perfect report or gather every detail — capture the essentials and stabilise first.
  • You don’t need to make big life decisions tonight (relationships, job, moving, etc.).

Important reassurance

Threats like this are designed to trigger shame and urgency so you’ll comply. Many people freeze or panic — that’s a normal stress response. You’re allowed to slow this down, get support, and take control in small steps.

Scope note

This is first-steps-only guidance to stabilise the situation and reduce harm. If the threat continues or you feel unsafe, specialist services and/or police can help you make next decisions at your pace.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice or a guarantee of outcomes. If you are in immediate danger or feel at risk of harm, call 999. If anyone under 18 is involved in any sexual images, prioritise safeguarding support and reporting routes for child safety.

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