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What to do if…
someone tries to get you to accept a drink they opened or poured and you feel uneasy

Short answer

Don’t drink it. Create distance and get support from venue staff or someone you trust to help you stay safe and leave on your terms.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t drink it “to be polite” or to stop the pressure.
  • Don’t argue or negotiate while holding the drink; put it down and move away.
  • Don’t go somewhere more private (outside, a car, toilets, a quiet corner) with the person to “talk it out”.
  • Don’t let them choose how you get home if you feel uneasy.
  • Don’t blame yourself for misreading it — unease is enough reason to stop.

What to do now

  1. End the drink conversation immediately. Use a simple line you can repeat: “No thanks.” Then put the drink down (table/bar), step away, and keep your hands free.
  2. Move to a safer spot with witnesses. Go to the bar area, a staff station, or near a group you trust. If you’re with friends, say clearly: “I’m not comfortable — stay with me.”
  3. Tell venue staff what you need (not a long explanation). Example: “Someone is pressuring me to drink — I want help getting away from them and leaving safely.”
    • If you’re in London and the venue participates, you can try the code phrase “Ask for Angela”. If they don’t recognise it, just repeat the direct request above.
  4. Get a safe exit plan that isn’t negotiable. Ask staff to: keep the person away, walk you to a taxi rank, help you meet a friend at the door, or wait with you while you arrange your own transport.
  5. If you feel suddenly unwell or “more drunk than you should be,” treat it as urgent. Tell staff/friends: “I feel unwell — I need help now.”
    • Call 999 if you’re seriously unwell, confused, fainting, or you can’t stay awake.
    • If you’re worried but it’s not an emergency, call NHS 111 for urgent advice.
  6. If you think there’s been spiking or any sexual contact you didn’t consent to, you can get specialist help without deciding about police now. You can access NHS support and Sexual Assault Referral Centres (SARCs), and you do not have to decide immediately whether to report.
  7. If you may want to report later, preserve options lightly (only if it feels manageable). Keep any receipts, note the venue name and approximate time, and avoid deleting messages/ride-history. You do not need to confront anyone or “prove” anything in the moment.

What can wait

  • You don’t have to decide whether you will report to police tonight.
  • You don’t have to figure out “what really happened” before getting help or leaving.
  • You don’t have to send messages, explain yourself, or smooth things over with the person.
  • You don’t have to keep the night going — leaving early is a valid safety choice.

Important reassurance

Feeling uneasy is a sufficient reason to stop. Many people freeze, fawn, or go quiet under pressure — that’s a normal stress response. The goal right now is simply to get you supported, observed by others, and safely away.

Scope note

This is first steps only: immediate safety, getting support, and preserving your choices. Later decisions (medical care, reporting, follow-up support) can be taken with specialist help when you’re safe and steadier.

Important note

This is general information, not legal or medical advice. If you feel at immediate risk or unwell, seek urgent help right away (999 / NHS 111). You deserve support even if you’re unsure what happened.

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