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What to do if…
someone you are messaging suddenly asks for nude photos and says it is “just to build trust”

Short answer

Do not send any nude or intimate images, and stop engaging with the request right now. Take a breath, keep what’s already been said, and move the conversation to safety: block and report if you need to.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t send any nude, partially nude, or sexual images “to calm them down” or “prove trust”.
  • Don’t pay money, send gift cards, or agree to “one last photo” if they escalate into threats.
  • Don’t negotiate or argue to “win them over” if you feel pressured — it usually increases demands.
  • Avoid deleting the chat or your account if you might want help later (keeping it can help you report). If you already deleted things, you can still get help with whatever you remember.
  • Don’t share extra personal details (address, workplace, school, other social accounts) to reassure them.
  • Don’t meet up in person to “sort it out” if they suggest it.

What to do now

  1. Pause and name it: treat “nudes to build trust” as a red flag for coercion or sextortion. You do not owe proof.
  2. Stop the flow: send one short boundary message (or none), then stop replying.
    • Example you can copy: “No. Don’t ask me for that again.”
  3. Preserve what matters (light-touch): if you can, screenshot the request, username, profile, and any threats. Keep dates/times visible.
  4. Block and report in-app: use the platform’s report/safety tools (harassment, sexual exploitation, blackmail, intimate image abuse) and then block.
  5. If they already have an intimate image of you (or claim they do):
    • Do not pay or comply.
    • Consider using StopNCII.org (for adults) to help prevent sharing on participating platforms.
    • Get specialist help: contact the Revenge Porn Helpline (UK adults) for support and takedown guidance.
  6. If you feel at immediate risk of harm: call 999. If it’s not immediate but you’re scared or being blackmailed, contact police via 101.
  7. Report if you want to (optional, your choice):
    • You can report online sextortion/blackmail via Report Fraud (the Action Fraud reporting service) if you live in England, Wales, or Northern Ireland.
    • If you prefer not to give your name, you can report anonymously via Crimestoppers.
  8. If you are under 18 (or the person targeted is under 18):
    • Tell a trusted adult now.
    • You can report to the NCA CEOP Safety Centre.
    • If an image has been shared (or you’re worried it might be), consider Report Remove (Childline/IWF) to help remove it.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to “confront” them, warn others, or make a public post.
  • You do not need to write a perfect report or collect lots of evidence before getting help.
  • You do not need to figure out whether they were “real” or what their motives were — focus on stopping contact and protecting yourself.

Important reassurance

Feeling shocked, embarrassed, or frozen is a normal response to sudden sexual pressure. People who use “trust” language to push boundaries are trying to bypass your instincts. You’re allowed to stop immediately, without explaining.

Scope note

These are first steps to stabilise and reduce harm. If threats continue, images are shared, or you feel unsafe, getting specialist support can help you choose next actions without doing anything irreversible.

Important note

This guide is general information for a stressful moment, not legal advice. If you are in immediate danger call 999. If you’re under 18 and sexual images are involved, get a trusted adult and specialist support involved as soon as you can.

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