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What to do if…
you are asked to provide a DNA sample to help identify a person who died

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Short answer

Pause, write down who is asking, and do not send anything yet. Verify the request through an official route, then only give a sample after the purpose, consent, collection method, and what happens afterwards have been clearly explained.

Do not do these things

  • Do not give a DNA sample, personal item, photo, or identity document through an unknown or unverifiable route.
  • Do not let urgency or distress push you into agreeing before you understand what the sample is for.
  • Do not use a consumer ancestry or health DNA kit unless the verified official contact specifically directs you to an official process.
  • Do not post or message personal details to prove who you are unless the route and recipient have been verified.
  • Do not assume you must decide alone or immediately; you can ask for time, written information, and a named contact.

What to do now

  1. Get the request into writing if possible. Write down the caller’s name, role, organisation, phone number, reference number, and exactly what sample or item they are asking for.
  2. Verify the contact through a route you find yourself.
    • If they say they are police: end the call, then use 101, the force’s official website, or the publicly listed force contact route. Ask to be put through to the named officer, unit, or reference number.
    • If the death is being dealt with in England, Wales, or Northern Ireland: use publicly listed details for the coroner’s office for the area involved.
    • If the death is being dealt with in Scotland: use the Crown Office and Procurator Fiscal Service contact route for death investigations.
  3. Ask what type of DNA source they want. They may ask for a family reference sample from you, such as a mouth swab, or they may ask about the deceased person’s personal items, such as a toothbrush. Do not handle or send items until the verified contact explains how they want them collected.
  4. Ask the key questions before agreeing.
    • “Is this only to help identify the deceased person or human remains?”
    • “What exactly will be taken, who will take it, and where will it happen?”
    • “What consent form or record will I be given?”
    • “Who will see the sample or DNA profile?”
    • “What happens to the sample and profile afterwards, and how long may they be kept in this case?”
  5. Ask for one named point of contact. This may be an officer, coroner’s officer, Procurator Fiscal contact, family liaison contact, or other official contact depending on the case.
  6. If you agree, use the official collection process only. Arrange the sample through the verified official route, with identity checks, paperwork, and a copy or note of what you consented to.
  7. Take someone with you if you can. A trusted person can sit with you, take notes, and help you remember what was said.
  8. If you are unsure, say so plainly. You can say, “I am not refusing, but I need the request and retention information explained before I decide.”

What can wait

  • You do not have to decide now whether to view the body, attend a formal identification, speak to relatives, or speak to media.
  • You do not have to understand the forensic details today; the immediate need is to verify who is asking and what you are being asked to consent to.
  • You do not need to make funeral, legal, or longer-term family decisions before you have a clear update on identification and next steps.

Important reassurance

Being asked for DNA after a death can feel invasive, frightening, or unreal. It can also be a practical way to help identify someone when visual identification is not possible or is not appropriate. You are allowed to slow the conversation down enough to understand the request.

Scope note

These are first steps only, to help you verify the request, reduce pressure, and protect your privacy in the next hours or days. Later decisions about legal rights, investigation issues, family disagreement, or data concerns may need specialist help.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, forensic, therapeutic, or professional advice. Processes and retention practices vary by case and by UK nation, so ask the verified official contact what applies to this specific request.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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