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uk Sexual violence & highly sensitive situations suspected sexual assault • not sure what happened • unsure if it counts • considering a forensic exam • considering a medical exam • rape kit questions • sexual assault exam timing • overwhelmed after assault • feeling numb and confused • shock after sexual contact • worried about evidence • worried about injuries • worried about sti risk • worried about pregnancy • don’t want police involved • not ready to decide • scared to attend alone • what happens at the exam • can’t think straight

What to do if…
you are considering a medical or forensic exam after a suspected sexual assault and you feel overwhelmed

Short answer

Get to a safer pause, then contact a Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) to talk through your options. You can ask about medical care and (if you choose) a forensic exam without reporting to the police right now.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t force yourself to decide about police, a statement, or “what it was” right now.
  • Don’t go alone if you can avoid it—panic can make it hard to advocate for yourself.
  • Don’t assume it’s “too late” to ask about an exam or support; call and ask what’s possible.
  • Don’t let anyone pressure you into an exam you don’t want, or stop you from getting medical care you do want.
  • Don’t confront the person involved, negotiate, or post publicly while you’re in shock.

What to do now

  1. Make a safety check (first): If you feel in immediate danger or need urgent medical help, call 999. If you’re safe but want police assistance that isn’t urgent, you can use 101.
  2. Contact a SARC and ask one direct question: “Can I self-refer and get medical care and discuss evidence collection without making a police report right now?” (They can explain what your local service offers and how it works.)
  3. Ask for support so you don’t have to carry this alone: Ask whether an ISVA (Independent Sexual Violence Adviser) or support worker can be involved, and whether you can bring a trusted person. If you don’t have someone, ask what support they can provide when you arrive.
  4. Choose the least-overwhelming route to care:
    • If you have severe pain, heavy bleeding, breathing difficulty, or feel medically unsafe: go to A&E (or call 999).
    • If you’re medically stable: ask the SARC to arrange an appointment and explain what happens step by step.
  5. Use “scripted” phrases to stay in control:
    • “I don’t know what I want yet—please explain options slowly.”
    • “I want medical care, and I’m unsure about a forensic exam.”
    • “Please tell me before each step. I need breaks.”
    • “I may stop at any time.”
  6. If you may want the option of evidence later (optional): If you can, avoid washing/showering and keep any clothing/items from the incident in a clean paper bag (not plastic). If you’ve already washed or changed, contact the SARC anyway—support and some care may still be available.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to report, name anyone, or pursue a case.
  • You do not need to write a full account or “get your story straight” right now.
  • You do not need to respond to messages or explain what happened to anyone you don’t trust.
  • You do not need to choose between “medical care” and “support”—you can ask for both, one step at a time.

Important reassurance

Feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, frozen, or unsure is a common response to suspected sexual assault. You’re allowed to take things one step at a time, ask for pauses, and change your mind. Getting support or medical care does not obligate you to do anything else.

Scope note

This is first-step guidance only—focused on safety, immediate support, and reducing harm while you decide what (if anything) you want to do next.

Important note

This is general information, not legal or medical advice. If you feel unsafe, call 999. If you’re unsure what to do, a SARC or specialist sexual violence support service can explain options and support you without pressure.

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