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What to do if…
you are considering reporting a sexual assault but you feel overwhelmed and unsure what to do first

Short answer

Get one supportive, confidential person/service alongside you first, then take one small step: either speak to a specialist support line or contact a Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC). You do not need to decide about the police right now to get help.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t force yourself to make a full “final decision” (report / don’t report) while you’re in shock or panicking.
  • Don’t tell your story repeatedly to lots of people “to check you remember it right” — it can intensify distress and confusion.
  • Don’t let anyone pressure you into reporting, staying silent, confronting the person, or “handling it privately”.
  • Don’t post details online or message the person who hurt you while you’re overwhelmed.
  • Don’t punish yourself for not acting “perfectly” — freezing, doubting, or going numb is common.

What to do now

  1. Create a safer pause (just for the next hour).
    Go somewhere you can lock a door or be with a trusted person. If you feel in immediate danger, call 999.
  2. Get confidential specialist support before you decide.
    Call Rape Crisis’s 24/7 Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Line: 0808 500 2222 (free) or use their online chat if speaking feels too hard right now.
  3. Consider contacting a SARC (you can do this even if you’re unsure about reporting).
    A Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC) can offer medical care, practical support, and talk through options at your pace. Ask if they can connect you with an Independent Sexual Violence Adviser (ISVA) for ongoing support.
  4. If you want to talk to police, choose the least overwhelming route.
    • Emergency / immediate danger: 999
    • Non-emergency: 101 or your local police’s online reporting route
      You can also say upfront: “I’m overwhelmed. I need breaks, and I’d like support present.”
  5. Protect your headspace: pick one “point person”.
    Choose one trusted person to help with calls/messages and to sit with you. If you don’t have someone safe, use a support line and ask what local, in-person advocacy is available.
  6. If you may want to report later, do one low-effort preservation step (only if it feels doable).
    If you can, set aside the clothes you were wearing unwashed (ideally in a paper bag if you have one). If you can’t or you’ve already washed, don’t force it — you can still get support and care.
  7. Write a private “for-you” note (optional).
    In your phone notes, jot a few bullet points: what you remember, approximate time/place, any witnesses/messages. This is for you, not a “statement”.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether it was “serious enough”, whether to prosecute, or what label to use.
  • You do not need to make a detailed statement immediately — you can ask for time, breaks, and support.
  • You do not need to gather proof, investigate, or contact the person who hurt you.
  • You can postpone telling family/work/school until you’ve got support and a plan.

Important reassurance

Feeling overwhelmed, numb, foggy, ashamed, or unsure is a very common reaction to sexual violence. Not knowing what to do first does not mean you’re doing anything wrong — it usually means your nervous system is overloaded. One small step toward support is enough for now.

Scope note

These are first steps to stabilise you and reduce the chance of rushed, harmful decisions. Later choices (reporting details, ongoing support, workplace/school issues, legal options) are best made with a specialist advocate or healthcare professional alongside you.

Important note

This guide is general information, not medical, legal, or counselling advice. If you are in immediate danger, call 999. If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, seek urgent help right now via emergency services or an urgent NHS route.

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