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What to do if…
you are offered a job, role, or opportunity and the communication turns sexual

Short answer

Stop engaging in real-time, get to a safer pause, and preserve the messages. You do not have to “play along” to keep yourself safe or keep the opportunity.

Do not do these things

  • Do not meet them alone “to talk it through” or to “prove you’re serious” if the tone has turned sexual.
  • Do not send intimate photos, videos, or personal information to de-escalate or “keep the offer alive.”
  • Do not delete messages, call logs, screenshots, or platform chats (even if you feel embarrassed or want it gone).
  • Do not negotiate with threats (“If you don’t…, you won’t get the job”) in the moment—pause first.
  • Do not assume it’s your fault, or that you “led them on” because you were being polite.

What to do now

  1. End the interaction safely. If you’re mid-chat, use a short neutral line like: “I’m not comfortable with this. Please keep communication professional.” Then stop responding for now.
  2. Preserve what happened (without escalating). Screenshot the full thread (including names, dates/times, profile/number), and if possible export/download the conversation from the app or email system. Keep it somewhere they cannot access (personal device/cloud).
  3. Move the conversation onto a safer channel (or stop entirely). If this is through a platform (LinkedIn, WhatsApp, text), stop using your personal number if you can. Do not click links or open attachments from them.
  4. Check whether there is a legitimate organisation behind it. Look up the employer independently (not via links they sent). If there’s a real HR team or switchboard, contact them using details you found yourself and say you need to report inappropriate recruitment communications.
  5. If you are at risk right now, treat it as a safety issue first. If you feel threatened, being followed, or pressured to meet, get to a public place / with another person. If it’s an emergency call 999. If it’s not an emergency, call 101 or report online via your local police force.
  6. Use specialist support if you feel shaken, unsafe, or unsure what counts. If you’re in England or Wales, you can speak confidentially with the 24/7 Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Line (phone or chat). If you’re in Scotland or Northern Ireland, look up local sexual violence support services (you can still use 999 in emergencies and 101 for non-emergency police help).
  7. If this is tied to a current workplace (internal move, secondment, client), use a formal route. Check your employer’s sexual harassment policy and consider raising it with HR or a manager you trust. If you need early, neutral guidance about workplace options, you can contact Acas.

What can wait

  • You do not have to decide right now whether to report to the police, make a formal complaint, or “take legal action.”
  • You do not have to write a perfect statement tonight. Saving the messages and getting support is enough for now.
  • You do not have to confront the person, explain yourself, or convince them it was wrong.

Important reassurance

Freezing, feeling confused, or trying to keep things “nice” is a very common response when someone with power crosses a line. The responsibility is on the person sexualising a work opportunity, not on you for being professional or hopeful.

Scope note

This is first-steps-only guidance for stabilising, preserving options, and reducing immediate risk. If the situation involves ongoing contact, threats, stalking, or workplace retaliation, you may want specialist support to plan next moves safely.

Important note

This guide provides general information, not legal advice. Processes and support options can vary by location and circumstances; if you feel unsafe or at risk, prioritise immediate safety and urgent help.

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