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What to do if…
you are served with a restraining or protective order and need to understand immediate restrictions

Produced and maintained by PanicStation.org Published: 5 May 2026 Last reviewed: 17 July 2026 Editorial policy UK guide

Short answer

Treat the order as active now if you have been served, warned by police or court staff, or shown the order. Stop all direct and indirect contact, stay away from any named places, and use the paperwork as your rules sheet until a solicitor or the court process changes it.

Do not do these things

Don’t contact the protected person to explain, apologise, clarify, negotiate, or ask whether they are okay.
Don’t use WhatsApp, texts, calls, email, direct messages, comments, likes, tags, gaming chat, shared documents, payment notes, or new accounts to contact them.
Don’t ask friends, family, neighbours, co-workers, children, or anyone else to pass messages or check what the protected person thinks.
Don’t go to an address, street, workplace, school, route, or area the order says you must not attend.
Don’t return to a home you are excluded from unless the order or a clear police or court instruction on the paperwork allows it.
Don’t rely on the protected person saying “it is fine” or “I will not report it”; the order may still be enforceable.
Don’t delete, edit, or tidy messages, call logs, location records, or social media history out of panic.
Don’t ignore any hearing, return date, police reporting requirement, or deadline shown on the paperwork.

What to do now

Get to a quiet safe pause before reading.
If you are at or near a place the order tells you not to be, leave calmly by the safest direct route. If leaving immediately would put anyone in danger, move to the nearest safe place and call 999.
Read the order slowly with a pen.
Make two short lists: “I must not…” and “I must do…”. Copy the exact wording about contact, distance, addresses, areas, children, home, work, belongings, hearings, reporting, and any exception.
Treat “no contact” as direct and indirect unless the order clearly says otherwise.
Block or mute contact routes that could make you reply by reflex. Do not post about the protected person, tag them, react to their posts, ask someone else to speak for you, or send a message through a shared account.
Map the places you must avoid.
Write down every named address, street, workplace, school, station, route, distance zone, or area in the order. Change your route now if your normal route crosses a prohibited place.
If the order affects your home, take essentials only.
If it says you must leave or not enter, take ID, bank cards, medication, keys, phone, charger, and essential work items if they are immediately available. Do not arrange belongings directly with the protected person; use any police or court instruction on the paperwork, or ask a solicitor about a safe documented collection.
Identify the type of order from the paperwork.
Look for words such as restraining order, non-molestation order, occupation order, domestic violence protection notice, domestic violence protection order, domestic abuse protection notice, domestic abuse protection order, stalking protection order, interim order, penal notice, power of arrest, warning, return date, or hearing date. Do not guess from the label alone; follow the exact restrictions written on the order.
Start a factual compliance log today.
Write brief time-stamped notes such as: “Served at 14:10. Left address at 14:20. Blocked contact channels at 14:35. Changed route to work.” Keep it factual, not argumentative.
Contact the court or police only for logistics, not interpretation.
Use the contact details on the paperwork. Ask about the next hearing, how to attend, how to get a copy of missing paperwork, how to file a response, and what form or process applies. Do not ask court staff to tell you whether a planned action would breach the order.
Get legal advice quickly and keep the question narrow.
Tell a solicitor: “I have been served with this order. I need to understand the immediate restrictions, how to avoid accidental breach, what the next hearing or deadline is, and how to deal safely with belongings, work routes, or child arrangements.”

What can wait

You do not need to decide your full legal strategy today.
You do not need to write a long statement while shocked.
You do not need to explain yourself to the protected person or mutual contacts.
You do not need to decide long-term housing, child arrangements, or work changes in the next few minutes, except for immediate steps needed to obey the order.
You can keep any employer message practical and minimal, for example about route, shift, or location logistics, without discussing the protected person.

Important reassurance

Being served can feel frightening and humiliating, but the next step is not to solve the whole case. The safest first move is to reduce contact, avoid named places, keep a simple record, and get advice before doing anything that could be seen as a breach.

Scope note

These are first steps only to prevent accidental breach and stabilise the next hours. Later decisions about evidence, response forms, hearings, variation, discharge, children, housing, or criminal proceedings may need specialist legal help.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice, medical advice, financial advice, therapeutic advice, or professional advice. Orders can differ by type, wording, court, police force, and part of the UK, so follow the exact paperwork and get advice from a qualified solicitor if anything is unclear.

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