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What to do if…
you receive an unsolicited “meet me now” message from someone using a spoofed or unfamiliar account

Short answer

Do not go to meet them. Get to (or stay in) a safe place and verify the sender using a trusted channel you already know.

Do not do these things

  • Do not go to a location “just to check” or “to get it over with”, especially alone.
  • Do not click links, open attachments, or install anything they send “to prove who they are”.
  • Do not share your live location, address, workplace, routine, or travel plans to “reassure” them.
  • Do not get pulled into a back-and-forth, arguing, or “prove yourself” conversation.
  • Do not post identifying screenshots publicly (it can escalate and expose your details). Save them to share privately with police/platform support if needed.

What to do now

  1. Stop and create a safety buffer. Stay where you are (or move to a more public place). If you were about to leave, don’t.
  2. Treat urgency as a risk signal. “Meet me now” + unfamiliar/spoofed account is enough to treat this as a potential lure until verified.
  3. Verify using a channel you already trust.
    • If the message claims to be someone you know: contact them using a saved number, an existing chat thread you’ve used before, or another verified method.
    • Ask one clear question: “Did you just message me from a new account asking me to meet you right now?”
  4. Use the right emergency/non-emergency route.
    • If you believe there’s an immediate threat to life/safety (or you feel in immediate danger): call 999.
    • If it feels threatening/harassing but not an emergency: call 101 to get advice and have it logged.
  5. If you’ve been hacked or lost money (or shared sensitive details), report it via the correct fraud route.
    • England, Wales, Northern Ireland: report cyber crime/fraud to Report Fraud.
    • Scotland: report to Police Scotland (typically via 101, or 999 if it’s an emergency).
  6. Preserve evidence without engaging. Screenshot the message and profile details, note time/date, and keep the thread intact. Don’t forward it widely.
  7. Report it through the relevant route, then block/mute.
    • SMS text: forward the message to 7726 (SPAM).
    • Email: forward suspicious emails to report@phishing.gov.uk.
    • Apps/social media: use the in-app “Report”/“Impersonation” option.
  8. Do a fast privacy and account check (2 minutes).
    • Turn off any live location sharing you don’t fully trust right now (phone settings and inside apps).
    • If you clicked anything, shared a code, or replied with sensitive info: change the relevant password(s) and enable two-step verification where available.
  9. Tell one trusted person. Tell them you received a suspicious “meet me now” message and you are not meeting anyone; arrange a simple check-in.

What can wait

  • Working out who it “really” was or trying to “catch them out”.
  • Writing explanations or negotiating.
  • Deciding whether to make a wider report, beyond the quick routes above, until you feel calm and safe.

Important reassurance

Feeling shaken or unsure is normal — urgency is designed to make you act before you think. Pausing, verifying, and refusing to meet is a safe and sensible response.

Scope note

This is first-steps-only guidance for the next minutes and hours. If contact continues, escalates, or feels targeted, you may need additional help (police advice, platform support, or specialist safeguarding support) based on what’s happening.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. If you feel unsafe, trust that instinct and prioritise immediate safety and official help.

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