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What to do if…
you receive conflicting information about where a person who died is being held

Produced and maintained by PanicStation.org Published: Last reviewed: Editorial policy UK guide

Short answer

Before travelling, paying deposits, or authorising collection, get one named contact to confirm two things: who has physical care of the person today, and who currently controls release for the funeral.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t keep making unlogged parallel calls; it can create more contradictions.
  • Don’t rely on a vague “yes” if the person cannot say their name, role, team, and what they are confirming.
  • Don’t pay a funeral director deposit just to “get things moving” if release has not been confirmed.
  • Don’t assume the person has been moved; they may still be in a hospital mortuary even if another office controls release.
  • Don’t share identifying details publicly online to try to find the location.

What to do now

  1. Start one written log. Use a notes app or paper. Record the deceased person’s full name, date of birth if known, date and place of death, and every call: time, number, person’s name, role, team, and exactly what they said.
  2. Ask for one reference or case marker. This might be a hospital number, NHS number, mortuary reference, coroner reference, COPFS reference, or the name of the team handling the case.
  3. Find the office responsible for the place where the death occurred.
    • England and Wales: ask for the local coroner’s office or coroner’s officer.
    • Northern Ireland: ask for the Coroners Service or coroner’s liaison officer.
    • Scotland: ask COPFS or the Scottish Fatalities Investigation Unit if the death is sudden, suspicious, accidental, or unexplained.
  4. Call the place most likely to have physical care today. Ask one precise question: “Is the person currently in your care today?”
    • If the person died in hospital, ask for the Bereavement Office or Hospital Mortuary, not the ward.
    • If a funeral director has already been contacted, ask whether they have collected the person or only requested collection.
    • If the death is being investigated, ask the investigating office where the person is being held and whether release has been authorised.
  5. Ask for two confirmations in plain words.
    • “Who has physical care of them today, and at which site?”
    • “Who controls release for the funeral right now?”
  6. If two places give different answers, pause and ask the release-controlling office to reconcile it. Say: “I am receiving conflicting locations. Please confirm the current holding location, whether a transfer is pending, and when I should expect confirmation.”
  7. Ask for confirmation in writing where possible. An email from the bereavement office, mortuary, coroner’s officer, COPFS contact, or funeral director is enough for your log.
  8. Use the funeral director to reduce calls if you have chosen one. Give them the reference you have and ask them to check custody and release with the mortuary and investigating office, then report back only once confirmed.
  9. Be ready for a simple identity or contact check. Have your name, relationship to the person, phone number, and photo ID available. If there is disagreement about who should receive updates, ask what the office needs to record or update the main family contact.

What can wait

  • You do not need to choose burial or cremation today.
  • You do not need to finalise funeral dates, notices, travel, flowers, or catering until release is confirmed.
  • You do not need to decide about viewing arrangements until the holding location and any required examination are confirmed.
  • You do not need to settle every wider family disagreement before asking one office to confirm location and release status.

Important reassurance

Conflicting information can happen early on because the person may be physically in one place while another office controls release. A single reference, one written log, and one accountable contact usually make the next update clearer.

Scope note

This is first-steps-only guidance for confirming where the person is being held and who can release them. Registration, funeral planning, complaints, and legal questions may need separate specialist help later.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or professional advice. Processes vary across the UK and depend on where the death happened, whether it is being investigated, and which office has authority over release.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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