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What to do if…
you suspect you are being pushed to resign instead of being dismissed

Short answer

Do not resign or sign anything in the moment. Slow it down: ask for the concerns and the process in writing, and get advice before you make any “final” decision.

Do not do these things

  • Do not hand in a resignation “just to get it over with” if you feel cornered.
  • Do not sign a settlement agreement, “mutual exit,” or “voluntary resignation” paperwork on the spot.
  • Do not rely on verbal promises (“we’ll give you a good reference”) as the basis for resigning.
  • Do not send an emotional resignation email or message that admits misconduct you dispute.
  • Do not export or copy confidential business/client data “to protect yourself.”
  • Do not assume you must decide by “end of today” if you can safely pause.

What to do now

  1. Buy time immediately (in writing). Send a short message: “I’m not resigning today. Please confirm in writing what the concerns are and what formal process (if any) is being started.”
  2. Make them name the route. Ask: “Is this performance capability, disciplinary, redundancy, or something else?” and “Please share the relevant policy/procedure and what the next meeting is for.”
  3. Get meetings nailed down. If you’re invited to a meeting, ask for the agenda, who will attend, and whether it’s a formal hearing. Ask for any documents they’ll rely on to be sent in advance.
  4. Start a clean timeline. Write down dates, who said what, and exact wording (for example, “resign or we’ll dismiss you”). Keep this on a personal device/account.
  5. Secure your own employment documents (lawfully). Prioritise copies of your contract, job description, handbook policies, payslips, recent objectives, performance reviews, and any letters/emails about concerns, warnings, PIPs, restructures, or changes to targets. Avoid taking confidential business/client information.
  6. Use the right internal lever instead of quitting. If you think the pressure is unfair or retaliatory, put in writing that you may raise a formal grievance, and ask for it to be handled under the grievance process.
  7. Use your right to be accompanied (where it applies). For a disciplinary hearing, you have the right to bring a companion such as a fellow worker or a trade union representative/official. For grievance meetings, the right can apply in certain circumstances and it is often good practice for employers to allow it—ask them to confirm in writing what they will permit.
  8. If a settlement agreement is mentioned, switch to “paper-only.” Ask for the written offer and the draft agreement. Do not sign in the meeting. In the UK, a settlement agreement generally needs to be in writing and you must receive advice from a relevant independent adviser for it to be binding—so “sign today” pressure is a red flag.
  9. Protect your time limits early. If you may need a tribunal claim, most claims have a deadline of 3 months minus 1 day from the act you’re complaining about (or the dismissal date). You usually need to start Acas Early Conciliation within that time limit (unless an exemption applies), so don’t wait to get guidance.
  10. Important caveat before resigning for any reason. Some claims (for example, ordinary unfair dismissal/constructive dismissal) often depend on having 2 years’ service, while other claims (for example, discrimination) can be different. That’s another reason not to resign in a rush.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to resign, accept an exit deal, or “fight it.”
  • You do not need to write a long defence statement before you have the allegations/concerns and process in writing.
  • You do not need to negotiate references, titles, or confidentiality terms right now.

Important reassurance

Pressure to resign is often about speed and control. Asking for written clarity, taking notes, and bringing a companion are normal, steady steps that keep your options open.

Scope note

These are first steps only—aimed at preventing irreversible mistakes and preserving evidence. If this escalates toward dismissal, a settlement agreement, or a potential claim, specialist advice may be needed.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. Employment rights and deadlines depend on your status and circumstances, and some claims have strict time limits.

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