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What to do if…
your manager demands you attend a meeting while you are on medical leave

Short answer

Don’t agree in the moment. Reply briefly in writing that you’re off sick and not well enough to attend a meeting right now, and ask for the purpose, agenda, and any documents in writing so HR can agree what contact is reasonable while you’re absent.

Do not do these things

  • Do not attend (in person or on video) if you’re not well enough or it’s likely to set back your recovery.
  • Do not ignore the request completely if you can manage one short reply — silence can be misread.
  • Do not give detailed medical information to your manager; keep it to “I’m off sick / medically unfit at present”.
  • Do not join an “informal chat” if it’s actually part of a formal process — ask what type of meeting it is first.
  • Do not accept any on-the-spot “outcome” (warnings, role changes, settlement paperwork) while you’re unwell.

What to do now

  1. Check what you’ve formally given your employer about your absence.
    If you have a fit note (or your employer requires one), make sure HR has it and it covers the dates you’re off. Keep your own copy.

  2. Send one calm boundary in writing and stop there.
    Example meaning: “I’m currently off sick and not well enough to attend a meeting. Please email me the purpose, agenda, and any documents. Please coordinate through HR while I’m absent, and I’ll respond when I’m able.”

  3. Ask what kind of meeting it is (this matters).
    Ask them to confirm whether it’s:

    • a welfare / keeping-in-touch check-in
    • a return-to-work planning discussion
    • an investigatory meeting (fact-finding)
    • a disciplinary hearing
    • a formal grievance meeting

  4. Propose a “reasonable contact” plan instead of a demand.
    Suggest what you can manage (if anything), for example:

    • written questions by email
    • one short scheduled call with HR present (only if you feel able)
    • postponing until you’re medically fit to take part
      (This keeps you engaged without turning sick leave into working time.)

  5. If it’s disciplinary or grievance-related, use the protections and ask for adjustments.

    • Ask for the agenda and evidence/documents in advance, and reasonable notice.
    • For a disciplinary hearing, you have a legal right to be accompanied by an eligible companion (for example, a trade union rep or colleague).
    • For a formal grievance meeting, the legal right to be accompanied applies in certain types of grievance (for example, where the grievance concerns a duty owed by the employer). If you’re unsure, ask HR to confirm and request accompaniment as good practice.
    • If you’re too unwell to participate, state that clearly and ask for it to be rearranged, or for questions in writing.

  6. Treat “investigatory” meetings cautiously.
    If they say it’s investigatory/fact-finding, ask for the questions in writing and offer written responses when you’re able. If you want someone present, request it as a reasonable adjustment or as good practice (it may not be automatic).

  7. If your health limits contact, get that limitation documented.
    If contact/meetings will worsen your condition, ask your clinician (or occupational health, if your employer uses it) to confirm functional limits such as “not fit for work-related meetings/calls at present” or “contact should be limited”. They may phrase this in general capability terms rather than workplace specifics.

  8. Keep a simple record.
    Save messages, invites, and any documents. If you do take a call, write a short note afterwards (date/time/what was said).

  9. Escalate away from the manager if the pressure continues.
    Ask HR (or your union, if you have one) to agree a reasonable way to handle contact during sickness absence. If you need outside guidance, you can use the Acas website/helpline for information on sickness absence contact and workplace procedures.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to raise a formal grievance, start legal action, or change jobs.
  • You do not need to provide your diagnosis or a long explanation right now.
  • You do not need to argue the whole situation over text — one clear written boundary is enough for now.

Important reassurance

It’s common for workplaces to want some contact during sickness absence, but it should be reasonable and should not undermine your recovery. Setting a clear boundary and asking for things in writing is a normal, practical step.

Scope note

This is first-steps guidance to reduce immediate harm and protect your position while you’re unwell. Later decisions (formal grievances, capability/disciplinary routes, discrimination issues) depend on your contract, policies, and medical circumstances.

Important note

This is general information, not legal or medical advice. If you feel threatened with consequences for being off sick, or the contact is making your health worse, consider getting advice from Acas, your union, or an employment adviser, and seek medical care if you need it.

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