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What to do if…
a caregiver has died and a child or dependent adult needs immediate care

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Short answer

First, confirm whether each dependent is physically safe and supervised right now. If you cannot confirm safety quickly, or someone may be in immediate danger, call 911 and say that a caregiver has died and a child or dependent adult may be without care.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t assume someone else is on the way unless you know who, where, and when.
  • Don’t move a child or dependent adult from a safe place unless there is immediate danger, an authorized caregiver agrees, or emergency responders or the relevant agency directs it.
  • Don’t leave a school, daycare, transport service, home health aide, hospice, or facility guessing if a pickup or handoff is due soon.
  • Don’t start sorting property, money, phones, or paperwork before care coverage is secure.
  • Don’t share details widely. Share only what is needed to keep the dependent safe and reachable.
  • Don’t promise long-term care, custody, housing, or money while you are still trying to stabilize the next few hours.

What to do now

  1. Confirm immediate safety.
    For each dependent, write down: where they are, who is physically with them, whether they are safe, whether they have food, warmth, essential medication, medical devices, and a way to communicate.

  2. Call 911 if safety is unclear or urgent.
    Say: “A caregiver has died and a child or dependent adult may be without supervision or care.” Give the address, the person’s name if you know it, and any urgent risks such as missed medication, wandering, falls, seizures, being locked out, or being alone.

  3. For a child, contact the local child welfare emergency intake line.
    This may be called child protective services, child welfare, family services, or something similar. Ask for the 24-hour emergency response or after-hours line, and say that the child’s caregiver has died and immediate safe supervision is needed.

  4. For a dependent adult, contact Adult Protective Services in the state or county where the adult is located.
    Say that the adult’s caregiver has died and the adult may be without necessary care, medication support, supervision, food, transport, or safe housing tonight.

  5. If the dependent is linked to care services, call them now.
    Contact the hospital, hospice, nursing facility, assisted living facility, home health agency, disability support provider, primary care office, or case manager. Ask for the social worker, case manager, nurse in charge, or on-call supervisor.

  6. If a pickup, drop-off, or release is due soon, call that place now.
    For a school, daycare, after-school program, transport service, or respite provider, ask what they need before releasing the child or dependent adult to anyone else, such as ID, an approved pickup list, or temporary authorization.

  7. Make one short care-facts note.
    Include names, dates of birth, current location, allergies, medications, medical equipment, doctor, school or program, key contacts, known safety risks, and who is with the dependent right now.

  8. Choose one lead contact for the next few hours.
    Use one phone number for agencies, responders, schools, and care providers. Keep the phone charged and answer unknown numbers until the immediate care handoff is settled.

  9. Keep temporary care simple and safe if you are helping in person.
    Use one stable location, one responsible adult, clear check-in times, and a simple plan for food, sleep, medication, and transport. If you cannot safely provide care, say that clearly to 911, child welfare, APS, or the care provider.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide long-term custody, guardianship, placement, housing, or care funding today.
  • You do not need to settle the estate, probate, bank accounts, benefits, or debts before the dependent is safe.
  • You do not need to notify every agency immediately. Focus first on the people and services that keep the dependent safe tonight.
  • Social Security and other death notifications can usually wait until immediate care is stable. Funeral homes generally report deaths to Social Security, but if that does not happen, Social Security can be contacted later.

Important reassurance

This is a difficult first-hours problem, and it is normal not to know who has authority yet. Calling 911, child welfare, APS, a school, or a care provider because someone may be without care is a safety step, not a judgment on the family.

Scope note

These are first steps only for immediate safety and temporary care coverage. Later decisions about legal authority, custody, guardianship, benefits, housing, ongoing care, and estate matters may need help from the relevant agencies, care providers, legal aid, or another qualified professional.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. If you believe anyone is in immediate danger, call 911.

Additional Resources

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