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What to do if…
a hospital asks for an advance directive or living will and you cannot find it

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Short answer

Tell the care team that you cannot locate the document and ask what decision is needed now and by when. Ask them to explain the process that applies while you search for a copy.

Do not do these things

  • Do not guess what the document says or speak as if you have seen a current copy when you have not.
  • Do not delay urgent care while searching. Tell the care team immediately that the copy is missing.
  • Do not access the patient’s phone, email, cloud storage, or portal unless you already have permission or other lawful access.
  • Do not treat a living will, health care proxy document, DNR order, and POLST-type form as interchangeable.
  • Do not send partial pages or unclear photos without asking whether the team can use them.
  • Do not start a broad family argument about every possible future decision. Ask what needs attention now.

What to do now

  1. Ask what is needed now.
    Ask: “What decision is needed now, and by when?” Ask what the team will do while the document is being located.

  2. Ask the hospital to check its records.
    Ask whether the chart already contains a scanned advance directive, living will, health care proxy document, or durable power of attorney for health care. Ask whether a POLST-type form is relevant in that state and whether one is already in the chart.

  3. Ask whether the patient can decide now.
    If the care team says the patient can make the current decision, ask the team to speak directly with the patient and document the decision. If the patient cannot decide now, ask who the hospital can speak with under the applicable state rule and hospital process.

  4. Do a focused search for a copy.
    Check the patient’s papers at home and any patient portal, phone, email, or cloud storage that you already have permission or other lawful access to use. Contact the patient’s primary care clinic, relevant specialists, attorney’s office, and any recent hospital system. Ask the hospital where a copy can be sent securely.

  5. Keep the care team updated.
    Tell the team who is searching and how to contact them. Share prior statements about the patient’s wishes only when you can describe what was said and the context clearly.

  6. Ask for help if the situation is unclear.
    Ask whether a social worker, patient advocate, patient relations contact, or ethics consultation is available if there is disagreement, no clear person to contact, or uncertainty about the next step.

What can wait

  • You do not need to remake every document today.
  • You do not need to search every possible location before telling the care team that the copy is missing.
  • You do not need to decide on hospice, a DNR order, or limits on life-support treatment solely because paperwork cannot be found.
  • You do not need to resolve every family disagreement before asking what decision is actually needed now.

Important reassurance

A missing copy can be worked through step by step. Focus on the next decision, the hospital’s process, and a short search for the most likely copy.

Scope note

These are first steps to stabilize the moment and reduce the risk of rushed or unclear decisions. Later decisions may need help from the treating team and, depending on the situation, a social worker, patient advocate, ethics consultant, or attorney familiar with the patient’s state.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. State law, hospital policy, the patient’s current ability to decide, and the type of document involved can affect what happens next.

Additional Resources

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