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us Personal safety & immediate danger stranger says they know me • someone insists i go with them • stranger won’t take no • being pressured to go somewhere • stranger tries to isolate me • lured to a second location • “come with me” stranger • coercive stranger in public • unsafe encounter with stranger • public place intimidation • someone blocks my path • stranger demands i follow • fear of abduction attempt • panic in public with stranger • stranger claims to recognise me • unwanted escort by stranger • pressured to get in a car • stranger won’t leave me alone

What to do if…
a stranger claims to “know you” and insists you go somewhere with them despite your refusal

Short answer

Don’t go with them. Move immediately into a staffed, public place and call 911 (or have staff call) while you stay around other people.

Do not do these things

  • Do not go to a “quieter” spot, back room, parking lot, alley, or vehicle “just to talk”.
  • Do not let them guide you by touching you or walking you toward an exit.
  • Do not share personal info (your name, where you’re staying, where you’re headed, who you’re with).
  • Do not accept a ride, “help,” or a “shortcut,” even if they sound convincing.
  • Do not hand over your phone, unlock it for them, or let them get between you and other people.
  • Do not try to “resolve it politely” if that keeps you stuck—prioritize distance and help.

What to do now

  1. Create a safer pause immediately. Walk into the nearest staffed place: store, hotel lobby, coffee shop, front desk, security station. Stand where there are cameras/people (near the register or reception).
  2. Use one firm sentence, then stop engaging. Example: “I don’t know you. I’m not going anywhere with you.” Don’t argue details. Shift your attention to staff/bystanders.
  3. Recruit help directly. Point to one person and assign a task:
    • “You—please call 911. This person is trying to get me to go with them.”
    • To staff: “I need help. Please call 911 and keep them away from me.”
  4. Call 911 if you feel threatened, they won’t back off, or they’re trying to isolate you. Give: exact location (address/business name), what’s happening, description, and where they are now. Stay in the staffed place until help arrives.
  5. If you can’t safely speak to 911: still dial 911 and stay on the line. Follow the dispatcher’s prompts if you can. If you truly can’t talk without increasing risk, keep yourself in a public, staffed area and communicate through staff if possible.
    • Text-to-911 is only available in some locations. If you know it works where you are and calling would put you at risk, you can text 911 your location and a brief description (avoid emojis/photos unless your local system explicitly supports them).
  6. If you’re in a mall, transit hub, campus, hospital, or large venue: go to security/customer service and ask them to call 911 and keep the person away. Stay near security or the front desk, not near exits.
  7. When it’s time to leave, reduce follow-risk. Ask staff/security to watch you exit, wait with you, or escort you to a safer pickup point. If you’re getting a ride, wait inside until it arrives.

What can wait

  • You do not have to decide right now whether to file a report, press charges, or “prove” anything.
  • You do not need to keep talking to them to find out “who they are.”
  • You can write down details (time, place, description, what was said) after you’re safe.
  • You do not need to post about it or warn others online in the moment.

Important reassurance

Feeling frozen, shaky, or worried about overreacting is common. In this situation, you’re not being dramatic—you’re setting a safety boundary. Getting help quickly is a reasonable response.

Scope note

This is first-steps-only guidance for the minutes that matter. Follow-up steps (reporting, documentation, safety planning) can happen once you’re safe and supported.

Important note

This is general safety information, not legal advice. If you believe you’re in immediate danger, call 911. If you’re unsure but feel threatened, trust that signal and move to a staffed public place.

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