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What to do if…
someone is pressuring you to reveal where you live or where you are staying

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Short answer

Do not give them your address or where you are staying. Move to a safer, public, staffed place and ask someone nearby for help. If you feel in immediate danger, call 911.

Do not do these things

  • Do not give partial details such as your street, neighborhood, landmarks, hotel name, room number, or next destination.
  • Do not let the person walk you to your car, home, hotel, or other accommodation.
  • Do not keep arguing or explaining. You may leave without giving a reason.
  • Do not accept a ride or go somewhere private with the person to avoid awkwardness.
  • Do not show a phone screen that reveals maps, booking details, messages, or address information.
  • Do not post your real-time location or identifiable photos while you are creating distance.

What to do now

  1. Leave the conversation.
    If it feels safe, use one short sentence such as: “I do not share that.” You do not need to repeat yourself or explain. If speaking does not feel safe, leave without saying anything.

  2. Move to a public, staffed place.
    Go to a front desk, security desk, busy store, staffed lobby, or another place with employees and other people.

  3. Ask someone nearby to help you create distance.
    Tell staff, security, a coworker, or a trusted person: “This person keeps asking where I live or where I am staying. I do not want to leave alone.” Ask them to stay with you, contact security, or call 911 if you feel in immediate danger.

  4. If you are staying in a hotel or similar accommodation, speak to the front desk.
    Ask staff not to disclose or confirm your stay or room number. Ask what privacy steps are available for visitors, calls, and messages.

  5. Leave without revealing your destination.
    Arrange transportation from inside the staffed place and wait indoors where possible. If you think the person may be following you, go to another public, staffed place and ask for help rather than going directly home or to your accommodation.

  6. Use onsite safety support if this is happening at work or school.
    Tell a supervisor, building security, or campus security that someone is pressuring you for your home or accommodation details and that you need help leaving safely.

  7. Call 911 if you feel in immediate danger.
    If the behaviour continues but there is no immediate danger, you may contact your local police department through its non-emergency route, if available, or contact a victim-support service to ask about local options.

  8. Save messages only when you are safe enough to do so.
    Keep texts, calls, or social-media messages if that is easy and safe. You do not need to gather a complete record before asking for help.

What can wait

  • You do not have to decide now whether to make a formal report.
  • You do not need to decide now whether to block accounts, change routines, or take longer-term steps.
  • You do not need a perfect record before asking for support.
  • Your immediate task is to get distance and reach a safer place.

Important reassurance

You are allowed to keep your address and accommodation private. You do not owe anyone an explanation for withholding location details. Repeated pressure after a vague answer is a reasonable reason to leave and ask for help.

Scope note

These are first steps for the next minutes to hours. Later decisions may depend on the circumstances and may need help from a victim-support service, local law enforcement, or another appropriate specialist.

Important note

This guide provides general information only. It is not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. If you feel in immediate danger, call 911.

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