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What to do if…
someone pressures you for sexual favours in exchange for money, housing, rides, help, or opportunities

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Short answer

Move toward a safer place or a trusted person, and avoid being alone with the person applying pressure if you safely can. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger or need immediate police, fire, or medical assistance.

Do not do these things

  • Do not go somewhere isolated with the person if you can safely avoid it.
  • Do not assume you must answer immediately or explain your decision.
  • Do not confront, threaten, or expose the person while you are alone with them or dependent on them.
  • Do not make a rushed decision about reporting, moving, quitting, or ending contact unless immediate safety requires it.
  • Do not blame yourself for needing money, housing, transportation, help, or an opportunity.
  • Do not judge yourself for anything you said or did to get through the moment.

What to do now

  1. Reach the safest available pause. Move nearer other people, enter a public place, contact security or staff nearby, or leave if doing so is safe. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
  2. Contact one trusted person. Tell them where you are, who you are with, and what immediate help you need. Ask them to stay on the phone, meet you, or arrange a safe pickup if possible.
  3. Delay or end the interaction in the safest available way. You can say you need time, move closer to other people, stop replying, or leave without giving a detailed explanation.
  4. Look for another route to the money, shelter, transportation, food, or practical help being used as pressure. Contact 211 and ask about local services that may meet the immediate need.
  5. For any unavoidable next meeting, pickup, housing visit, or workplace conversation, try to use a public setting or have a trusted person nearby rather than meeting alone.
  6. If it is safe and does not increase your risk, save the messages or write down what was requested and when; you do not need to gather anything else now.
  7. Contact RAINN for confidential sexual assault support and local referrals. If the person is a partner, family member, or someone controlling your daily life, the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help you consider a safer immediate step.

What can wait

  • Choosing a label such as coercion, harassment, abuse, assault, exploitation, or trafficking.
  • Deciding whether to report the person to police, an employer, a school, a housing authority, or another organization.
  • Making long-term decisions about housing, work, education, relationships, or future contact.
  • Telling other people what happened.
  • Creating a complete record of every interaction.
  • Responding to demands for an immediate answer.

Important reassurance

Needing money, shelter, transportation, help, or an opportunity does not create a sexual obligation. Freezing, staying polite, delaying, or complying because you felt unsafe or trapped does not make the pressure your fault.

Scope note

This guide covers immediate safety and support only. Later decisions about housing, employment, reporting, healthcare, or legal options may require help from a sexual assault advocate or another qualified specialist.

Important note

This is general information for immediate safety and support. It is not legal, medical, mental health, or other professional advice.

Additional Resources

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