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What to do if…
someone you just met is pushing for your address or ride home and will not drop it

Short answer

Stop negotiating and switch to safety: get to staff/other people, leave using transport you control, and call 911 if you feel in danger.

Do not do these things

  • Do not give your real address to “end the conversation”.
  • Do not accept a ride, share a rideshare, or let them walk you to your car alone.
  • Do not move to a quieter place or outside area to “talk privately”.
  • Do not argue or escalate; aim for a calm exit with witnesses.
  • Do not let them see your phone screen while you’re booking a ride or texting.
  • Do not go straight home if you think they might follow you.

What to do now

  1. Move to people and cameras. Go to a staffed counter, front desk, or security area. Stand where staff can see you.
  2. Use one firm line, then stop explaining. “I’m not sharing my address. I’m leaving now.” Repeat once if needed; don’t debate.
  3. Ask staff/security for help directly. “This person won’t stop pressuring me for my address/ride. I need help leaving safely.” Ask them to keep the person away and stay with you while you arrange transportation.
  4. Choose an exit plan they can’t join.
    • Ask staff to call a taxi or let you wait inside for a rideshare.
    • If using rideshare, verify the car and license plate before getting in.
    • If you’re worried they might see where you live or follow you, consider a nearby well-lit public drop-off (like a hotel lobby or late-open store) and get safely inside—then decide your next move from there.
  5. If you’re going to your own car, don’t do it alone. Ask staff to walk with you. Keep keys ready, get in, lock doors immediately, and leave. If you notice you’re being followed, drive to a busy public place and call 911 if you feel threatened.
  6. Get a “witness on the phone.” Call/text a friend and keep the call live while you leave. Share your location if you can.
  7. If they follow on foot or you feel trapped, go public and call 911. Move into a staffed, busy place (store, hotel lobby, staffed transit area) and call 911 if you feel in danger.
  8. Write down key details once you’re safe. Time/place, what was said, appearance, name/handle, and vehicle description/plate if you saw it. Save any messages. If venue staff helped, note the venue name and who you spoke to.
  9. If you already gave your address. Treat it as compromised for tonight: don’t go there alone. Go somewhere safer (friend/family/hotel) and consider calling local police (or 911 if you feel in immediate danger) to document what happened.

What can wait

  • Deciding whether it “counts” as a crime or whether you should report.
  • Crafting a perfect explanation or message back.
  • Any confrontation, “closure,” or follow-up meeting.
  • Reviewing the whole interaction to see what you “should have done.”

Important reassurance

You’re not being rude by ending the interaction. Someone who won’t respect a simple boundary is giving you useful safety information. Freezing or trying to keep the peace is a common stress response.

Scope note

These are first steps for the next minutes and hours. If the person continues contact, threatens you, or shows up again, you may need additional support and a formal report.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. If you are in immediate danger or a crime is in progress, call 911. If you are not in immediate danger but want to report ongoing harassment or stalking-like behavior, contact your local police department (often via a non-emergency number listed on their official website).

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