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What to do if…
someone you know becomes aggressive during a conversation and you feel unsafe
Short answer
Stop trying to resolve the conversation. If you can do so without moving closer to the person or squeezing past them, move to a safer place with other people or a clear way out. If you think violence may be about to happen, you are being prevented from leaving, or you are in immediate danger, call 911.
Do not do these things
- Do not keep arguing once the conversation feels unsafe.
- Do not insult, threaten, dare, or corner the person.
- Avoid touching, restraining, or trying to push past them unless you need to act to protect yourself or get away from immediate danger.
- Do not block their exit.
- Do not move the conversation into a more private place, such as a bedroom, basement, garage, or car.
- Do not reach for objects that could be misunderstood as weapons.
- Do not stay because you feel embarrassed about leaving. Your safety matters more than finishing the conversation.
What to do now
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Look for the safest pause.
Stop debating. If you can do so without moving closer to the person, create space and move toward a safer exit or a place with other people. -
Use very few words, or leave quietly.
If speaking feels safe, use one short sentence such as: “I’m leaving now.” You do not need to explain, negotiate, or announce that you are leaving if silence feels safer. -
Move toward visibility and help.
Go toward a public, visible, staffed, or secure area, such as a lobby, reception desk, open business, or place where other people are present. At work or in a venue, alert staff or security. -
Use an existing barrier if one is already available.
While moving away, keep distance. If a table, counter, door, or other solid barrier is already between you and the person, keep it there. Do not take a detour or handle objects to create a barrier. -
Bring in help without asking someone to enter the confrontation.
Call or text someone nearby and ask them to alert staff, meet you at a safer location, or call 911 if emergency help is needed. If staff or security are available, ask for help leaving. -
Call 911 if the risk is immediate.
Call if violence may be about to happen, the person is preventing you from leaving, threats are escalating, a weapon is present, or anyone has been hurt. Be ready to give your exact location and answer the call-taker’s questions. Share any immediate threat or weapon information if you can do so safely. -
Go to a safer place if you can leave.
Go to a public or secure place that the person cannot easily enter, if possible. If you think you are being followed, stay in a public place and call 911. -
Use a local non-emergency route later if you need one.
After you are safe, you can search for the local law enforcement agency where the incident happened to find its non-emergency contact information. You do not need to decide about making a report during the confrontation. -
Consider specialist support when it is safe to use your phone.
If the person is a partner, ex-partner, or family member and you want confidential support, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), TTY 1-800-787-3224, or by texting START to 88788.
What can wait
- You do not need to decide right now whether to report what happened.
- You do not need to decide right now whether to end a relationship or confront the person later.
- You do not need to send a long explanation message.
- You do not need to prove what happened while the situation is escalating.
- You can think about later boundaries and support after you are safe.
Important reassurance
Leaving early is a reasonable protective choice. You do not need to wait for physical violence before taking the situation seriously.
Scope note
These are first steps for the immediate situation only. Later decisions may need support from a specialist service or another appropriate professional. After you are physically safe, VictimConnect is an optional general support and referral route for threatening incidents.
Important note
This guide provides general information only. It is not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. If you are in immediate danger or think violence may be about to happen, call 911.
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