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What to do if…
you are told to sign a settlement agreement or resignation letter on the spot

Short answer

Do not sign on the spot. Ask for a copy, take it away, and say you will respond after you’ve reviewed it (ideally with legal advice).

Do not do these things

  • Do not sign a severance/settlement agreement, “release,” or resignation letter just to end the pressure.
  • Do not accept “sign right now or it’s gone” as your only option without getting the offer in writing.
  • Do not use only a work computer/work email to store or send documents you may need later.
  • Do not write a resignation email “for HR” if you do not truly want to quit.
  • Do not assume a verbal promise (money, benefits, reference) will happen unless it’s written into the agreement.

What to do now

  1. Use one sentence to stop the signature moment. For example: “I’m not signing anything today. Please provide me a copy and I’ll respond after I’ve had time to review it.”
  2. Get the full document set and take it with you. Ask for:
    • the complete agreement (including any exhibits/attachments)
    • any separation letter
    • any noncompete/nonsolicit/confidentiality clauses
    • anything describing pay, benefits, and the effective separation date
      If they won’t let you leave with it, ask them to email it to your personal email or provide a printed copy to take.
  3. Clarify the status question that changes everything. Ask: “Are you terminating my employment, or are you asking me to resign?” Then write down the exact answer and who said it.
  4. If you are 40+ and they want you to waive age discrimination claims, you are usually entitled to specific review time and a revocation period. If the agreement includes a waiver of Age Discrimination in Employment Act (ADEA) claims for someone age 40 or older, the Older Workers Benefit Protection Act (OWBPA) generally requires at least 21 days to consider it (or 45 days in many group exit programs) and a 7-day period after signing to revoke. You can say: “If this includes an ADEA waiver, I’m taking the required time to review it.”
  5. Be cautious about resignation because it can affect unemployment. Unemployment insurance rules vary by state, but voluntarily leaving work without good cause can lead to denial. If you need time, it is reasonable to say you are not resigning today and you will respond after review.
  6. Make a quick written record while it’s fresh. As soon as you can, write a note: date/time, who was present, what was said (especially deadlines or threats), and what documents you received. Then send a brief email to HR confirming you received the paperwork and are reviewing it (no debate, just a timestamped record).
  7. Get help that matches the document (and don’t let weeks pass without advice). If you can, contact an employment attorney or a legal aid clinic and say: “I was asked to sign a severance/release or resignation letter immediately; I need urgent review.” If you think discrimination may be involved, you can also consider contacting the EEOC or your state fair employment agency after you are safe and calmer—there can be time limits, but you do not need to decide in the meeting.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to accept severance, negotiate terms, or resign.
  • You do not need to give a detailed statement, “confession,” or timeline in the meeting.
  • You do not need to argue the facts on the spot—first secure the documents and time to review.

Important reassurance

People often feel shocked and pressured in these meetings. A calm refusal to sign immediately, and a request for time and a copy, is a normal and protective step.

Scope note

This is first-steps guidance to help you avoid irreversible mistakes under pressure. Employment law and unemployment rules depend heavily on your state, your contract/policies, and what the agreement says—specialist review is often important.

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. If you feel unsafe or threatened, end the conversation and leave if you can do so safely, then seek support.

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