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What to do if…
you feel pressured into sexual contact during a healthcare or support appointment and feel unsafe

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Short answer

Get to a safer pause: stop the interaction, put another person between you and them if you can, or leave. You do not have to argue, justify yourself, or decide whether to report right now.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t stay alone with them because you are worried about “making a scene.”
  • Don’t agree to continue privately, meet outside the appointment, or use personal phone, social media, or personal email contact.
  • Don’t let anyone pressure you to decide right now whether to report.
  • Don’t force yourself to give a detailed account on the spot; you can keep it brief and focus on getting safe.
  • Don’t return to another appointment with the same person unless you feel safe and have support or another provider arranged.

What to do now

  1. Create space immediately. Use a short phrase if you can: “Stop.” “I don’t consent.” “I need someone else in the room.” “I’m leaving now.” Move toward the door, hallway, front desk, waiting room, or another public area.
  2. Ask for another person in the room. Say: “Get a chaperone or staff member now,” “Please get the clinic manager,” or “I need another person present before anything else happens.”
  3. End or pause the appointment. You can say: “This appointment is over,” “I want a different provider,” or “I will reschedule with someone else.” You do not need permission to stop.
  4. Ask for help leaving if you feel unsafe in the building. Ask front-desk staff, a nurse, a patient advocate, or hospital or clinic security to stay with you or escort you to a safer area, your ride, or outside.
  5. If you still need urgent care today, ask for a different clinician and another person present. Say: “I still need care, but not from that person,” or “I will continue only with a different provider and a staff member present.”
  6. Make a short private note when you are away from them. Write the date, time, place, name or description, what was said or done, who else was nearby, and how you left. This is for you.
  7. Get confidential specialist support. RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline is available 24/7 by phone, text, and online chat. You can ask about safety, options, and local support without committing to a report.
  8. If you want help inside the organization now, ask for Patient Relations, a Patient Advocate, a supervisor, a charge nurse, or the practice manager. You can say only: “I felt unsafe with this provider and I need help leaving, changing providers, and making sure I’m not alone with them.”
  9. If you may want to report later, you can keep messages, emails, appointment details, and your short note. Only keep what feels safe and manageable.
  10. If you are in immediate danger or cannot get away safely, call 911.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide right now what label to use, whether it was “serious enough,” or what you will do next.
  • You do not need to write a full statement today.
  • You do not need to confront the person again.
  • You do not need to decide today whether to contact law enforcement, a licensing board, the clinic, the hospital, or an accreditor.
  • You do not need to continue care with that person while you work out safer care options.

Important reassurance

Freezing, going along, or feeling confused can happen when someone has authority over your care. You are allowed to stop an appointment, ask for another staff member, ask for a different provider, and leave.

Scope note

These are first steps to get you to a safer pause, supported, and not alone with the person. Later decisions, including formal complaints, licensing reports, law enforcement, changing providers, or getting medical or legal support, can be taken with specialist help and at your pace.

Important note

This is general information for the first moments after feeling unsafe during a healthcare or support appointment. It is not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or other professional advice. If you feel at risk right now, prioritize immediate safety and emergency help.

Additional Resources

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