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What to do if…
you feel pressured into sexual contact during a healthcare or support appointment and you feel unsafe

Short answer

Get to a safer pause: stop the interaction and put another person between you and them (staff, chaperone, a trusted person), or leave. You don’t have to argue or explain in the moment.

Do not do these things

  • Don’t stay alone with them because you’re worried about “making a scene.”
  • Don’t accept “let’s continue privately” or any personal follow-up contact (personal phone, social media, meeting outside).
  • Don’t let anyone pressure you to decide right now whether to report.
  • Don’t feel you must give a detailed account on the spot; you can keep it brief and focus on getting safe.

What to do now

  1. End the appointment and create space. Use short phrases: “Stop.” “I don’t consent.” “I’m leaving now.” Move toward the door or a public area.
  2. Ask for a chaperone or another staff member immediately. Say: “I want a chaperone/staff member in the room now,” or “Please get the clinic manager.” (Ethics guidance supports patients being free to request a chaperone.)
  3. If you still need care today, request a different provider or reschedule. “I want to switch providers,” or “I’ll continue only with a chaperone present.”
  4. If you feel unsafe in the building, ask for help leaving. You can ask for front-desk staff or hospital/clinic security to escort you to a safer area, your ride, or outside.
  5. Make a quick record while it’s fresh (1–3 minutes). In your phone notes: date/time, location, name/description, what was said/done, who was nearby, and how you left. This is for you.
  6. Report it inside the organization in the safest way you can. Options (names vary by facility):
    • Patient Relations / Patient Advocate / Ombudsman (if available), or
    • the practice manager/clinic director, or
    • a charge nurse/supervisor if you’re in a hospital setting.
  7. Get confidential specialist support now (no commitment to reporting). Contact RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline (24/7) by phone or online chat to talk through options and get support.
  8. If you want to report the provider later (optional): you can contact your state medical board (they handle complaints about licensed clinicians). If this happened in a hospital, you can also consider reporting a patient safety concern to the hospital’s accreditor (for example, The Joint Commission) if relevant.
  9. If you are in immediate danger or can’t get away safely, call 911.

If you may want to report later: avoid deleting messages/emails or throwing away anything you think you might want to keep. Only do what feels safe and manageable.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide right now what label to use, whether it was “serious enough,” or what you’ll do next.
  • You do not need to write a full statement today.
  • You do not need to confront the person again or return to another appointment with them.

Important reassurance

Freezing, going along, or feeling confused is a common fear response—especially when someone has authority over your care. You’re allowed to stop an appointment, ask for another staff member, and leave.

Scope note

These are first steps to get you safe, supported, and documented. Later steps (formal complaints, licensing reports, law enforcement, switching providers) can be taken with help and at your pace.

Important note

This is general information for the first moments after feeling unsafe during a healthcare or support appointment. It isn’t legal or clinical advice. If you feel at risk right now, prioritize immediate safety and emergency help.

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