What to do if… you think someone used your unlocked phone to search for or share intimate content while you were asleep

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Short answer

Get to a safer, private place first, then secure your phone and accounts. If you feel physically unsafe or think you may have been assaulted or drugged, treat it as urgent and get help right away.

Do not do these things

Do not confront the suspected person while you’re alone or in a place where you don’t feel safe.
Do not delete texts, DMs, photos, browser history, or app logs “to clean it up” (that can remove what you might later need).
Do not hand your phone to the suspected person to “check it” or “explain it”.
Do not post accusations publicly right now (it can increase risk and make things harder to control).
Do not talk yourself out of getting support just because you’re unsure — you can get help without certainty.

What to do now

Create immediate safety and distance.
If you’re near the person you’re worried about, move somewhere you can lock the door, go to a trusted friend/neighbour, or leave if that’s safer. If you’re in immediate danger, call 911.
Write down what you noticed (briefly).
Note the time you woke up, what seemed “off” (open tabs, sent messages, unfamiliar app activity), and anything about your body that concerns you (pain, bleeding, nausea, unusual drowsiness, memory gaps). Keep it short and factual.
Secure your phone before investigating further.
- Change your passcode to a longer code.
- Check device security settings for changes you didn’t make (new face/fingerprint unlock, changed screen lock, new recovery info).
- Consider turning off message previews on the lock screen.
Check for the most common signs of sharing (light-touch review).
Look at:
- Sent folders in texts/DMs and email.
- Recently opened tabs and downloads in your browser.
- Photo “recently deleted” and recent shares.
- Any new apps installed or unusual permissions (photos, camera, contacts).
  If you find something, take screenshots or photograph the screen with another device.
Stop ongoing account access.
- Change passwords for your core accounts (Apple ID/Google account first, then email, then social media).
- Turn on two-factor authentication.
- Review account “devices/sessions” and sign out anything you don’t recognize.
Get confidential support now (you don’t need to decide anything).
- Contact RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline for confidential support and help finding local resources.
- If intimate images may have been shared (or you’re being threatened), you can contact the CCRI Image Abuse Helpline (1-844-878-2274) for specialized support.
Consider medical care if anything feels physically wrong.
If you have injuries, pain, bleeding, severe panic symptoms, or you suspect you were drugged or assaulted while asleep, go to an Emergency Department or call 911 for urgent help. Many areas have clinicians specially trained to care for sexual assault patients (often through SANE/SAFE programs) — you can ask whether a SANE/SAFE clinician is available and request trauma-informed care.
If you may want to report later (optional).
If it feels relevant, avoid deleting what you found and keep the screenshots/notes you made. You do not have to choose reporting right now to get support.
If images were shared (optional consumer report).
If you want, you can also report nonconsensual intimate image sharing to the FTC as part of broader consumer protection reporting. This is optional and can wait.

What can wait

You do not need to decide right now whether to report to police.
You do not need to confront anyone today.
You do not need to “prove it” before contacting a hotline or getting medical care.
You do not need to make public statements or take legal steps in the next few hours.

Important reassurance

When something may have happened while you were asleep, it’s normal to feel confused, embarrassed, angry, numb, or unsure what’s real. Taking steps to protect yourself and your privacy is reasonable, even if you only have partial information.

Scope note

This guide covers first steps to keep you safe, preserve options, and reduce harm. Later decisions (reporting, takedowns, legal options, housing, relationship decisions) are best made with specialist support.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, or investigative advice. If you feel unsafe or unwell, seek urgent help from emergency services or healthcare. You are in control of what you choose to do next.

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What to do if…you think someone used your unlocked phone to search for or share intimate content while you were asleep