What to do if…
your workplace is not responding to sexual harassment and the behaviour is getting worse
Short answer
Get to a safer pause, put the concern in writing as soon as you safely can, and ask for temporary safety measures that reduce contact while the workplace responds.
Do not do these things
- Do not meet privately with the person to “clear the air” if you feel pressured, unsafe, or outnumbered.
- Do not assume you must confront the person directly.
- Do not delete texts, emails, chat messages, photos, voicemails, calendar entries, or notes because you feel overwhelmed.
- Do not keep relying only on informal conversations if the behavior is escalating or the response is stalled.
- Do not quit, resign, sign anything, or agree to a private meeting while panicked if you can safely pause first.
- Do not share details widely at work just to prove what happened; tell only the people you choose or need for immediate safety and reporting.
What to do now
- Get to a safer pause first. If you are in immediate danger or being threatened, move to a public or safer area and call 911. If you are at work, ask a supervisor, security, reception, or a trusted coworker to help you relocate and not leave you alone with the person.
- Use the employer’s listed harassment reporting route as soon as you safely can. Check the anti-harassment policy, employee handbook, intranet, hotline, ethics line, HR contact, supervisor route, or another named reporting option. If you cannot find the policy quickly, email HR and a higher-level manager or another designated contact.
- Send a brief written report, even if you already told someone verbally. Use email or the company reporting system if there is one. Keep it simple: say you are reporting sexual harassment, say the behavior is escalating, list the most important dates or places, name any witnesses if you know them, and say who you already told.
- Ask for temporary safety measures while it is handled. Ask for specific steps that reduce contact, such as no one-on-one meetings, no direct messages, a different schedule, a different workstation, a different reporting line, remote work if possible, an escort to your car or transit, or removal of the person’s access to your workspace.
- Keep a private record you control. In a personal document or notebook, write down what happened, dates, times, places, witnesses, who you reported to, and what changed afterward. Keep copies or screenshots of messages where you can, and keep originals unchanged where possible.
- Say retaliation concerns plainly in writing. You can write: “I am concerned about retaliation after reporting sexual harassment.” If your schedule, hours, duties, evaluations, access, or treatment changes after reporting, write down what changed and when.
- Use a second internal channel if one route is stalled. If HR has not responded and your workplace has another route, such as an ethics hotline, compliance contact, corporate HR, a different manager, security, or a union representative, use it and mention your earlier report.
- Consider external help without pressure. You generally may contact the EEOC or a state or local fair employment agency about workplace harassment or retaliation. EEOC filing deadlines are usually 180 days, or 300 days in many places where a state or local agency enforces a similar law; federal employees and federal job applicants usually have a different process, so check promptly if that may apply.
- Get confidential support alongside workplace steps. You do not have to report to police to seek support. RAINN, a local sexual assault service, a victim advocate, an employee assistance program, or a trusted support person can help you steady the next step.
- If you may want to report later, preserve what you can without forcing yourself through everything now. Keep relevant messages, items, photos, or notes as they are. Do only what is manageable and safe.
What can wait
- You do not need to decide today whether to file an EEOC charge, contact a lawyer, report to police, resign, or make a long-term career decision.
- You do not need a perfect written statement; a clear report and a request for temporary safety measures is enough for first steps.
- You do not need to warn the person, negotiate with them, or get them to admit anything.
- You do not need to tell coworkers details beyond what you choose or what is needed for immediate safety.
- You do not need to solve the whole workplace process before getting through the next safe hour.
Important reassurance
Freezing, panic, shame, anger, numbness, or second-guessing can happen after harassment, especially when the response feels slow. You are allowed to take practical steps for safety without having everything perfectly worded or fully decided.
Scope note
These are first steps only: reduce immediate contact, make the concern visible, preserve options, and buy time. Later decisions may need specialist help, such as a victim advocate, employment lawyer, union representative, medical professional, or appropriate agency.
Important note
This is general information, not legal, medical, therapeutic, financial, or other professional advice. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. You can seek support without being forced to report to police. Workplace rules, union procedures, state or local agencies, and federal employee processes can differ, so check the route that applies to your workplace before relying on a deadline or process.
Additional Resources
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — What You Should Know: What to Do if you Believe you have been Harassed at Work
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — Sexual Harassment
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — Harassment
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — Retaliation
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — How to File a Charge of Employment Discrimination
- U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission — Time Limits For Filing A Charge
- USA.gov — Discrimination, harassment, and retaliation
- RAINN — Hotline
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