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What to do if…
your workplace response to sexual harassment feels delayed and the behaviour is escalating

Short answer

Focus on safety and make the report hard to ignore: follow your employer’s reporting policy in writing and request immediate temporary protections to stop contact while it’s addressed.

Do not do these things

  • Do not keep it informal if the behavior is escalating or you feel unsafe.
  • Do not meet privately with the person “to clear the air” if you feel pressured or at risk.
  • Do not delete texts, emails, chat messages, or notes because you feel overwhelmed.
  • Do not assume you must confront the person directly.
  • Do not make irreversible decisions while panicked (like quitting on the spot) if you can avoid it. If you need to leave today to feel safe, leave and decide next steps later.

What to do now

  1. Get to a safer pause first. If you’re in immediate danger or being threatened, get to a public/safe area and call 911. If you’re at work, ask a supervisor to help you relocate immediately and have someone stay with you.
  2. Locate your employer’s anti-harassment policy and use the listed reporting option(s) today. Many policies allow reporting to HR, a supervisor, a hotline/ethics line, or another designated contact. If you can’t access the policy quickly, email HR and a higher-level manager.
  3. Send a written report today (even if you already told someone). Use email or your company reporting system if it exists. Include:
    • that you are reporting sexual harassment
    • that it’s escalating
    • the most important dates/places and what happened (brief bullets are fine)
    • who you reported to already and what response you received.
  4. Ask for immediate “interim protections” while it’s handled. Request specific temporary steps, such as:
    • no contact / no one-on-one meetings
    • different schedule, location, or reporting line
    • remote work (if possible)
    • removing the person’s access to you/your workspace
    • a safe way to enter/leave or be accompanied onsite.
  5. Start a protected record you control. In a private document (not on a shared work device if you’re worried about access), log what happened, dates/times, witnesses, and keep copies/screenshots of messages. Keep originals unchanged where possible.
  6. If you fear retaliation, say it plainly (in writing). “I’m concerned about retaliation.” If anything changes after you report (schedule, hours, duties, treatment), write it down and keep copies.
  7. Use another internal channel if HR is the bottleneck. If your workplace has options (hotline, ethics/compliance, a different HR contact, corporate office), use a second channel and reference your first report.
  8. Consider external options without pressure. You generally have the option to contact the EEOC (and/or your state fair employment agency) about harassment and retaliation. There are strict time limits for contacting the EEOC—in some cases as short as 180 days—so if you think you might do this, consider reaching out promptly to confirm what applies to you.
  9. Get specialist support alongside workplace steps (you do not have to report to police). For confidential support, consider RAINN’s hotline/chat, a local sexual assault service, or an EAP if your employer offers one.
  10. If you may want to report later: keep any relevant messages/items as they are and avoid editing originals. Only do what feels manageable.

What can wait

  • You do not need to decide today whether to file an EEOC charge, hire a lawyer, or report to police.
  • You do not need a perfect written statement; a clear report plus a request for interim protections is enough for now.
  • You do not need to warn the person, negotiate, or get them to admit anything.
  • You do not need to share details with coworkers beyond what you choose.

Important reassurance

Feeling frozen, panicky, ashamed, angry, or numb is a common stress response. When the workplace response feels slow, it can intensify that stress. Putting it in writing and asking for interim protections is a reasonable way to regain safety and control.

Scope note

These are first steps to reduce harm and stop escalation. Later choices depend on what happened, your safety, and what you want (internal resolution, time off, medical care, external reporting, legal advice).

Important note

This is general information, not legal advice. If you are in immediate danger call 911. You can seek support without being forced into reporting to police. If you are unsure which reporting path applies where you work (especially in government, education, healthcare, or union workplaces), the EEOC or a confidential support service can help you understand options without forcing a decision.

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