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What to do if…
someone repeatedly asks for your home address after sexual chatting and you feel pressured to share it

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Short answer

Do not share your home address. Slow the interaction down, stop answering address questions, and switch to protecting your privacy and safety.

Do not do these things

  • Do not give your full address, postcode, building name, flat number, or a “partial” version to get them off your back.
  • Do not send live location, a doorstep photo, a view from your window, a parcel label, or anything that could identify your home.
  • Do not let them rush you into proving trust, loyalty, attraction, or interest by sharing personal details.
  • Do not move the conversation onto another app just because they insist.
  • Do not keep debating once you have decided not to share it.
  • Do not meet them at your home or let them collect you from home.
  • Do not delete the whole conversation straight away if you may want support, platform help, or a report later; keep clear screenshots first if it is safe to do so.

What to do now

  1. Stop giving more personal information. Do not confirm where you live, whether you live alone, your routine, your workplace, nearby landmarks, or places you regularly visit.

  2. Send one brief boundary message, then stop discussing your address. For example: “I’m not sharing my address.” You do not need to explain, negotiate, or make it sound softer.

  3. Take screenshots that show the pattern. Capture their username, profile, the repeated address requests, and any pressure, threats, guilt-tripping, sexual pressure, or attempts to move you to another app.

  4. Block or restrict them if you want the contact to stop. Use the app’s report option if it covers harassment, unwanted sexual pressure, coercive behaviour, threats, or unsafe contact.

  5. Check what they could already use to locate you. Look at recent photos, parcel labels, calendar screenshots, food delivery screenshots, ride-share screenshots, public profiles, workplace details, and location tags.

  6. Tighten the account they contacted you on first. Remove visible location details, hide workplace or hometown information, limit who can message you, and switch off contact syncing or location sharing if relevant.

  7. If the repeated contact makes you feel scared, distressed, or threatened, treat it as a safety issue. Online stalking or harassment can include repeated unwanted online contact, threats, or attempts to get private information. You can contact your local police if it is not an emergency, or use 999 if you or someone else is in immediate danger.

  8. Get specialist support if the sexual pressure has left you shaken or unsure. You do not have to decide whether to report before asking for support. If something sexual happened without your consent, or you are not sure, a sexual violence support service can talk it through with you.

  9. If they are threatening to share intimate images or messages unless you cooperate, get help quickly. The Revenge Porn Helpline supports adults in the UK affected by intimate image abuse, including threats to share private sexual images and sextortion.

What can wait

You do not need to decide right now whether to report them, confront them again, meet them, explain yourself better, or fix every privacy setting perfectly. The urgent part is not giving your address, reducing contact, and stopping the pressure from getting closer to your real life.

Important reassurance

Feeling frozen, embarrassed, conflicted, or worried that you “led them on” is a common reaction to pressure. Sexual chatting does not create any obligation to share your address, meet at home, keep responding, or prove trust.

Scope note

These are first steps only. Later decisions about reporting, ongoing safety, sexual violence support, platform action, or legal options may need specialist help.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, financial, therapeutic, or professional advice. Guidance and processes can vary across the UK, and if anything shifts toward immediate danger, use emergency help straight away.

Additional Resources

Closely connected guides that may be useful during the same situation or its immediate aftermath.

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