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What to do if…
someone repeatedly asks for your home address after sexual chatting and you feel pressured to share it

Short answer

Do not share your home address. Pause the conversation, stop answering address questions, and shift immediately to privacy and personal safety.

Do not do these things

  • Do not send your full address, apartment number, ZIP code, or a “nearby” location as a compromise.
  • Do not send live location, delivery screenshots, ride-share screenshots, or photos that could identify your home.
  • Do not let them turn this into a test of trust, attraction, or consent.
  • Do not move to text, encrypted messaging, or another account just because they keep pushing.
  • Do not meet them at your home or let them pick you up there.
  • Do not keep trying to persuade them to be reasonable once you have said no.
  • If you may want to report this later, do not wipe the whole chat immediately; save a few clear screenshots first.

What to do now

  1. Stop sharing any more identifying details. That includes your address, neighborhood, work location, daily routine, building name, school, or places you regularly visit.

  2. Send one short boundary message if you want to reply at all. For example: “I’m not sharing my address.” You do not need to justify it or keep discussing it.

  3. Save basic evidence of the pressure. Screenshot their profile, username, repeated requests, and any threats, manipulation, or sexual coercion.

  4. Block, mute, or report them on the platform. Use the app’s harassment, sexual exploitation, unsafe contact, or unwanted contact reporting tools if available.

  5. Review your privacy settings right away. Remove public location clues, hide your friends list if relevant, lock down old posts, and check whether your phone number, email, or workplace is visible anywhere.

  6. Look for indirect ways your address could be exposed. Check marketplace listings, wishlists, package photos, pet tags, event posts, and any social account that shows your neighborhood or building.

  7. If the pressure turns into threats, blackmail, or repeated contact across accounts, treat it as a safety issue. Depending on the state and the pattern of conduct, repeated unwanted online contact may fall under stalking or harassment laws, and local law enforcement may be an option if you feel unsafe.

  8. Reach out to a specialist support service if the sexual pressure is affecting your sense of safety. In the U.S., RAINN offers confidential support and information without forcing you into any particular next step.

  9. If they are threatening to share intimate images, or have shared them without your consent, focus on account safety and reporting. The FTC has information on nonconsensual distribution of intimate images and accepts reports through its fraud reporting system.

  10. If you are relocating or already trying to keep your address hidden, check whether your state has an Address Confidentiality Program. Many states have them for victims of stalking, sexual assault, domestic violence, or similar abuse, but availability and eligibility vary by state.

What can wait

You do not need to decide right now whether to keep talking to them, make a police report, explain the sexual chat, or sort out every account perfectly. The urgent job is to avoid giving your address and reduce the ways they can reach or locate you.

Important reassurance

It is common to feel embarrassed, conflicted, or afraid that stopping now will make things worse. You still do not owe anyone your address, even if the conversation was sexual before this.

Scope note

This is first steps only. Later decisions about reporting, protective steps, or legal options may need specialist help.

Important note

This is general information, not legal, medical, or crisis counselling advice. Laws and reporting routes vary by state, and if the situation becomes an immediate danger, call 911.

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